I was the one whose cup needed to be filled today. We had our monthly ladies gathering and usually I'm most comfortable in the hostess role, serving others, filling others cups. Today I didn't feel up to it. I couldn't really put my finger on it. I even hesitated on committing to the date for weeks and couldn't figure out why it was so hard for me to just settle on a date which usually takes only a few minutes to pick.
After sort of floating through the day, I got home I realized that it's the anniversary of when I got diagnosed with Crohn's disease. The body remembers even when the thinking brain doesn't. That was a tough day, a tough procedure, pain and starving for weeks, and ultimately getting really hard news.
It's been 4 years. I've done a LOT of emotional work to process so much of what led to my disease and the effects the disease had on my family. I am in a really good place. But trauma and painful memories are like layers of an onion. You can heal and then another layer becomes exposed to teach you something new.
To be raw with you for a second, the theme emerging from this layer of healing is vulnerability and openness to receive. I've always aimed to be self-sufficient, never needing help, never inconveniencing anyone, never appearing weak. That's a huge factor of what got me so deep into the sickness to begin with.
The Lord has been revealing this to me over the past few weeks that it's time to start allowing people in and not being so hard of heart towards receiving love and help from others. It seems like literally every time I've been in mass over the last few weeks they sing The Servant Song. It brings me to tears every time I hear it and I know the Holy Spirit is working hard on me right now. The kicker of the song is not only about serving others, but "Pray that I might have the grace to let you be my servant too."
That day there was an angel nurse who spoke so much life into me. I was crying about my diagnosis (only about 15 minutes out of anesthesia, which is also such a cruel time to be given such news!) I have no idea what she said, but she gave me apple juice and she poured light all over the darkness that I was fighting. She was right, whatever she said. I survived it all and I am feeling amazing and I am healed. I claim that healing. I also claim the healing that is still happening today and tomorrow and every single day within me, my family, and right now with my willingness to show others that I need them and I can't keep trying to have it all together all the time.
I write as part of my healing. When I sat down I thought this post was going to be about forgiveness. Forgiving myself for the pain that we all went through. Allowing my body to forgive. Finding peace. But this lesson that's been knocking at my door for the past month just seemed to emerge as I sat at the keyboard. The Holy Spirit is so amazing and literally pursues you with loving hugs and signs and encouragement while carrying you through the next transformation -- if you're open to it. It feels so insane sometimes how personalized the messages can feel and how they can just come out of nowhere. This is life in the Holy Spirit and I love every second of it.
I just learned about something called Peak Week. It's the third week in September, where the highest number of asthma attacks are experienced and reported.
It's a perfect storm of ragweed season being at its height, kids being back in school and passing all the germs around, and the stress of the fall routine changes catching up to us.
Being a former asthma sufferer, this discovery hit home for me. The fall was always tough for me. I suffered from allergies and asthma from about age 14 to 34. I had a smattering of attacks throughout the years, spent a decade on inhaled steriods, daily allergy meds, and a restricted diet to help manage it.
I really didn't get a handle on it until I adopted a more significant lifestyle change recently which significantly reduced toxins and irritants in my daily environment and also addressed the role that unprocessed emotions were playing in the picture. I use natural products to support myself now, and I am happily able to have an unrestricted diet, no meds, and a lot of natural energy.
I am so thankful that this is no longer an issue for me, and if I do have a rare unexpected flare up I have a whole arsenal of natural, God-given tools to support myself.
Prayers for all people experiencing the stress of respiratory diseases. I know how scary and debilitating it can be.
Here are some things I did to get a handle on it.
1. Switch to non-toxic products: Look at the labels on the products you're using in your home. So many of them contain ingredients which are very aggravating to the respiratory system and the gut among others. There are apps and websites available to help you navigate this. Check out my Natural Living post for what to look for and what to do about it.
2. Examine your emotional health: Grief is stored in the lungs. Take some time to explore if there are things that have happened in your life, not limited to the loss of a loved-one, which you have not gone through all of the stages of mourning over. For example, if something turned out different than you always dreamed ,of, you might need to mourn the loss of that dream. There are lots of other trapped emotional patterns that can contribute. There are ways to help your body and mind release trapped emotions, and I have been amazed at the impact that this has had on my overall welless. If you want to dive deeper into this, send me a message, I am working on sharing more about this in the coming months.
3. Work on your gut health: Our gut is critically important for our overall health. When we are exposed to chemicals and bad thought patterns for a long period of time, our body accumulates this and makes adaptations to do its best to continue operating. But, we might not be efficiently absorbing nutrients, or have a good balance of flora, or we might have inflammation that inhibits normal gut function. To get back into balance, you need to remove the irritants (like those noted in step 1 and 2) through natural detoxification methods and then provide abundant nutrients to help your body heal. It is possible to heal your gut and it will have a huge impact on all of your body systems. I am proof-perfect: 4 years ago I was in rough shape and was diagnosed with an Inflammatory Bowel Disease. Now, after concerted effort to do the things I am recommending, my gut is in great shape and it shows in my current health status; I'm in remission and feeling great, medication-free and happy!
4. Get a community of support: Loneliness can have a huge impact on our health. So can negative influence from those around us. It is so important to find a positive environment that can encourage you on your path to feeling well.
The best decision I made for my overall health was getting a Starter Kit from Young Living. I gained a supportive community to help coach me to make the changes I needed to make to feel better, and I gained hundreds of natural tools to support my body, mind and spirit for so many things. I cannot stop talking about this. If you have seen the change that has occurred in my life in the last 3 years, you know something is different, and this is one huuuuge factor in my ability to get a handle on my well being.
Breathe easy, friends.
I am so thankful for this journey. I’ve been doing this now for almost 2 years and what I’ve learned is that people get into oils for many different reasons:
🤧 To avoid days off from work and school 🤒
☠️ To get toxins out of the home 🕯🧼
😌 To help provide support for a specific thing they or a loved one is dealing with.
It is a beautiful thing to watch people go from addressing a couple of things in daily life to finding a deeper level of overall wellness in body and mind: myself included!
I got into oils for sleep. I had a 3 year old and we were struggling. What I quickly found was that I was able to climb out from the dark place I was in and find so much hope and light and freedom from so many things I had been carrying by tuning into my emotional wellness and the capabilities that essential oils have to offer.
The body and mind and soul are inextricably connected and I’ve learned so many things about the link between emotions and wellness.
I wouldn’t be where I am today without YL oils, Jesus, the tenacity in making the changes I needed to make to allow myself to let go of what wasn’t serving me, and this community and all of the resources that come along with it.
As a result of my life-changing experiences I have a passion is about emotional wellness, emotional release the body/mind/soul connection, and the healing power of Christ. I believe we cannot fully be well without balancing all of those things.
I have amassed a ton of knowledge on the subject and I am just leaning into where it will lead me next.
I recorded this video on Facebook to share my heart and gratitude for how far I've come, and rather than typing it all out, I just wanted to share with you here too.
I am so passionate about teaching and sharing and have been a little less confident about bringing up the transactional side of essential oils. And I want to apologize -- all of my indirectness has actually just been a disservice to the people I love.
The Premium Starter Kit is on sale. You've seen the things. I am yelling it from the rooftops because I am not going to play small anymore. I am not going to be shy about this. Every household needs a starter kit. Not just a couple oils. Not the janky ones off Amazon or even that D one. A Young Living Premium Starter Kit. 12 oils, a diffuser, all the things. These oils are different than the junk you've tried. This community is different. There is something special here. I am serious.
You need a YL starter kit because you need to make a shift. A commitment. This is important. The only changes that stick are the ones where we’ve gone “all in.”
You’ll be tempted to say it’s too much. Too overwhelming. Too expensive. Too complicated.
The question is- are you ready to let go of the things keeping you stuck, unwell, unhappy? Or Are you too attached to them to do the work to let go of them? This is a legit question. Are you ready to prioritize yourself and your health over something else that is taking your resources? Are the things you're doing right now working for you?
When you’re ready to put in the work to change, you will change. The starter kit and this community will hold you accountable. You won’t be alone, we are cheering you on.
People ask me how membership works, “why can’t I just get a couple oils?” Listen. When left unaided, brains want to take the easy route and not do the work to change. But that does not produce results. It’s not the product’s fault, it’s your fault. We don’t get healthy by just having one meal of broccoli or going on the treadmill once. Everything that is transformative takes some commitment. This starter kit was designed mindfully to give you opportunities to take on the habits needed for transformation.
“But I’m not looking for transformation, I just want X to feel better.....”
Friend. Have you looked honestly at why X is not working in the first place? Everything in life is connected to something deeper and there is no magic potion to pour on and avoid the process of excavating that deeper source. It will be so good to face it and see yourself change as you find relief. That’s how this works.
So when you’re ready to invest in yourself and have it returned to you, and be supported by friends and amazing science and gifts from God, I’m here to cheer you on. ❤️
The listening program is going well! Already seeing some exciting results. I’m journaling the process and promise a full report later on my blog for those of you that care!
But for now I’ll just say:
1) I’m so glad we are doing this as a family 💕
2) Even just at day 1 I could feel the changes happening physically to myself and catch myself actually making eye contact with people in situations where I never have in the past. 🙌 We are seeing that with M too along with more confident conversations with neighbors and friends! I am soo enjoying what it is doing for me too. It’s so nice to know what he is experiencing too so I can support him fully as we go through it together. So much of what causes healing is love and connection and this process has been so full of that so far.
3) We have a few days left of the first protocol. Today is supposed to be our “tired day” and so far that is on point. So glad I have all my arsenal to support us. I’ve been using a lot of things from my bag of tricks to help reinforce the changes happening and help our bodies and brains do the hard work of transformation. Deep Relief this morning, chugging Ningxia, Omegagize, Sulfurzyme, and so many oils to support brain and nervous system, I’ll make a longer post about the oils but I’ll just say now that I hadn’t used more than 10 drops of this full bottle of Clarity that I got free last summer and it’s only day 3 and we are flying through it, my body is just cravvving that and it is pouring out of the bottle.
Soo glad we are doing this. ✨
PS - Since I've gotten some inquiries -- we are doing the integrated Listenjng Systems (now Unyte) Safe and Sound Protocol (SSP) & Focus Home Programs with Brain Harmony.
This post contains an affiliate link to Brain Harmony, whom we chose as the home provider for the listening system. We have been loving working with Brain Harmony, and this home program is such a great fit for us. They are the largest provider of home program ILS systems in the country and I feel very secure in knowing that they have expertise in this, much more than the original provider who initially exposed us to the ILS systems.
it's January. it's that time of the year when we all feel called to make some changes. i urge you to be intentional. if you really want to make significant change, you need to go all in, identify the various ways in your life that support your goal. otherwise you are just confusing your mind, waffling around making some choices and others that aren't in line with your goal and you are wasting energy.
the reason commitment is so important? because it takes time and energy to make a change and you are going to have to put in the work. it took how many months for your situation to accumulate, based on your lifestyle, choices or other circumstances. unless you just had an acute injury caused by a single episode (in which case you probably want to consult a doctor) (and even then) it is going to take some commitment to unravel the thing that you need to change. this is literally true in any circumstance. want to lose weight? running one day isn't going to do it. want to get a handle on your emotions? one therapy session isn't going to fix it all. haven't washed your car in months? it's going to need a scrub. not to say that you can't have a result quickly but in most cases it is not reasonable to expect an immediate change from a single action or application. to see change in any area of your life you need to make a commitment.
it’s a waste of your time if you don’t go all in and give it your all for a little while. when we're talkingabout essential oils, getting one bottle here or there or even a sample to address something is not going to give you results to write home about. i've been there. i tried that thing, and it got me nowhere until i made the commitment to really give it my focus and to make the other lifestyle changes that i needed to make to get myself on the path to success to real transformation. you have to make the commitment to make the change in your lifestyle to support your body to do what it does best. for example essential oils are going to help you cleanse toxins, but if you're still using the blue cleaners and the black warning label toothpaste and burning candles and using plug ins you aren't going to get anywhere because you are just refilling the cup with junk every day. or essential oils can help you with emotional balancing but you need to stop feeding your mind with negative thoughts and do the work to get in alignment with yourself and God about who you are and what your purpose is and why you are here and what you are made for and what your worth really is.
to get a little sciency on you-- essential oils support your body by creating more favorable conditions for your body to do the things it already knows how to do: to detox, restore, rebalance, heal. each body is balanced differently so just like we have different food preferences, we are also individually attracted to different oils for similar situations. And just like several fruits have similar vitamins but in different combinations, several oils have properties that can address a given situation. for example there are a lot of reasons why a person might be having trouble sleeping. there are a lot of oils that can have an impact on a persons sleep, and what works for one person will address their reason for not sleeping, but another option will address another person's situation better.
this is why there is a starter kit. and this is why the starter kit is designed the way it is designed. it takes the burden off of you to design your perfect plan for execution by giving you all the tools you need to start off on the right path. it truly does not benefit you to start out with an oil or two and "see how it goes." it's not going to go anywhere! these things need to work together in harmony to give you the best outcome and the starter kit gives you an opportunity to replace the things you're using everyday to give you the best possible environment for them to be able to work therapeutically in your body. the 11 oils are the most versatile and popular oils to handle most everyday needs and among them actually have several options to approach those common things so that you can experiment with what works best for your particular body and your particular situation. this isn't just a business scheme, the company literally gives these away at half the retail price (plus, right now an extra 10% discount til the 14th.) because it is THE RIGHT WAY to get started, not because it is the most profitable. they would be doing you a disservice if they did it any other way because it wouldn't set a strong foundation for you to get comfortable, find what works, and quickly make the changes necessary for you to start seeing results. the customer is the one getting the best deal in this situation.
so, when you're ready to make a commitment to yourself, i'm here and i am so excited for you. it's not hard. yes there is a learning curve. yes there is an adjustment period, and it is an investment. but if you ask me and thousands of others it is sooo worth it. and there is a tremendous amount of support available and all those people who have gone before you who have experienced positive change to cheer you on! i can't wait to run along side you as you open yourself up to the healing and transformation that you can experience if you just make the choice to go all in and see what it can do for you.
A few posts ago I was referring to my word in 2018. It was actually a couple of words - "Calm Confidence"
I was working on my vision board for myself, my family, and my business and while I was making my lists, it hit me what my word should be this year.
Right. I had to laugh. You know you're on the right path when it doesn't seem like you would have chose it if you were really calling the shots. haha. I mean what a dork, I coudn't just settle for "freedom" or "unburdened" or "liberated" or something less nerdy? I even negotiated with myself that it should be "light" instead. And that is definitely the runner up. Or it might be the one that I actually tell people lol so that I don't feel like such a weiner for my dramatic word choice.
Our team is making a necklace with our word. I mean I have to put that on jewelry?
But, the spirit was clear. That is the one.
It's so right. I get in my own way so often. I let other things get in my way. I walk heavy.
So, this year, I am going to travel light. I am going to ditch excuses. I am going to just do the dang thing. I am allowed to enjoy the process. I am allowed to let life flow to me. I am allowed to move forward!
i am light,
i am free
i advance with ease
What's your word for 2019?
Last January I had a bug in my bonnet that I was going to make some changes. I was going to get active, I was going to get control of my anxiety, and I was going to surrender to God and start to tune in to where he was really leading me.
I started Monique McLean's 21 Days of Prayer on January 2 last year. It is so good. Although i have to admit I have to watch it on 1.5x speed because she is a bit wordy and I need to keep things moving. I also have to admit it took me more than 21 days. But it was very very transformative for me. I also did the Feelings Protocol at the same time for the month of January and I have to say that they were perfect compliments to each other.
I am starting it again this January and I want to invite you to join me. We don't have to start on exactly the same day or compare notes if you don't want to (but if you do, I'd be delighted to, that's my passion!) I think it is such a wonderful way to start the new year.
Since last year she's jazzed up the setup and it's really nice, over at youinfuse.com. I get nothing for sending you over there but I highly recommend it for your own growth! There's also a workbook that I purchased to go with it this year, but it is not a requirement to do the study. Go, check it out. I'll wait here.
Drop me a message if you're planning to do it! I'd love to cheer you on in my prayers.
Have a blessed Christmas and I am sending you all the best for your best year yet in 2019.
Last December I got myself this gift. It’s in my bathroom and I look at it every day. Last December I did not have any self-worth or courage. I was riddled with anxiety. I was sort of a loose cannon. I had literally just felt the call to start my business and was being swept up with a current of momentum in my soul that wasn’t going to heed my mind’s protests or hesitation with this plan laid out before me. So, in the business, we went through the exercise of picking a word for 2018 and I chose “calm confidence” because I had seen that phrase used to describe Sacred Mountain, (which had made me “get” what oils were all about) and I knew I’d need lots of it this year.
What a year it has been. In the beginning I was faking the confidence part, and lacking on the calm. In the middle I realized my word should be humility. I had started the year trying to compensate for where I lacked, but I had over-corrected. The difference between artificial growth and authentic growth is humility.
I faced some big scary self-development truths this year. I experienced unbelievable healing on several fronts, and it was all by the grace of a God who was going before me, leading me on a yoke through hills and valleys, giving me rest, giving me challenges, giving me blessings in the form of people and support and angels to guide me towards unprecedented growth.
I am just where I am meant to be. I just keep saying yes to the next step, and hanging on through the next lesson, and allow myself to be molded and formed for a greater purpose. And somewhere along the way when I wasn’t looking for it, that calm confidence did show up. 🙌
I'm thinking hard about my new word for 2019. I know that setting intentions is very powerful and I am full of faith that this journey will continue to lead me to new opportunities, new heights, and new challenges for the glory of God!
What's your word for 2019??
I just love the adrenaline rush of a good deal. I am a consignment sale shopper and I always have to be there on the first day. I stalk all the deals for Black Friday and Presidents day. It's about frugality of course but it's also about getting in on something exclusive. It's a way to belong.
Truth be told I haven't always understood my own value. It is really really hard for me to justify buying things for myself. I would go shopping with friends and pick out things I liked but then talk myself out of them. Do I really need it? No? Probably not. While there aren't a lot of obvious flaws with this mindset-- I mean it's a great way to avoid overfilling your home with stuff, it also has some pitfalls. In the days when I was at my lowest, I even resisted going to the doctor because I didn't think I was worth spending the money on. I didn't think what I was going through was "bad enough". (Note - I had severe undiagnosed Crohn's disease at this point... it was bad enough.) I legit wasn't taking the needed care for myself because I didn't value myself and my needs.
The only reason I got myself to much-needed therapy was because of the EAP. This is a free employee assistance program that allows for several sessions of therapy. There, I started to realize that it's not healthy to have such low self-worth. It's not okay to hold yourself hostage. It's not good to put everyone first and neglect yourself. It IS OKAY to spend money on yourself, or to treat yourself, or to get what you need even if it seems "too expensive" or "frivolous."
All of this to say. I look at deal shopping very differently these days. Of course I am a pragmatist. One should always maximize the available to the best of their abilities, but I was literally denying myself any fulfillment of needs unless it was validated by a discount.
As if to say, I didn't feel "full price" I felt "discounted."
But, I was being too harsh in qualifying needs. I didn't consider self-care an actual legitimate need. It felt too indulgent to do things that could be more convenient if there was a cheaper (more challenging, harder, more time-consuming) alternative. It felt wrong to make choices that could improve my health or well-being, when those are literally the most important "things" to invest in. I had not considered how everything else is basically disposable but we have this one body and one mind and one family for this one life, and that its what really matters. And after going through that health crisis and coming out on the other side, I can finally see it. And now I am fanatical about it. And can't stop talking about it. Because when you discover a real truth, you can't hold it in.
The truth is, this is complicated. We have limited resources. We have lots of things to consider and prioritize. But the thing I am working the hardest on is recognizing my own worth, and the worth of others and practicing generosity to both. I think this can be a good rule to live by.
I'm Lisa Yau, thanks for stopping by!